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I can never be absolutely 100% positive, but it sounds to me that he likes you (as you already know), and his friends seem to know and are annoyed by it. So Jim acts different to you when they're around because he doesn't want to get teased by them or he doesn't want to annoy them. Ask him about it sometime when you're chatting on the computer, like "how come at school, you're way different then you are when we talk online?" Always, the best thing to do is ask him about it instead of having it keep occuring. Oh Boy
Boys are funny people... they act so different when around their friends than when they're with you. And the reason? Maybe he has an image that he wants to keep, by being a jerk. Or, maybe he's afraid that if he act the same way he does when it's just you and him, his friends would judge him; maybe calling him a wimp. Basicly- he likes you, but doesn't want to get teased by his friends or doesn't feel comfortable showing that side of him. Try talking to him about it, when you two are alone. That should set things straight. Flirt for Fun?
You may want to ask yourself if you've done anything that might have rubbed him the wrong way. Like, maybe you were over friendly, or maybe your friends saying all this stuff about you and him being a cute couple could have scared him off. It may have seemed like he liked you but here's the thing -boys love to flirt because they can do it without having to be going out with someone. Just because a boy flirts with you, doesn't mean that he likes you. And, it sounds like you only liked him because of the fact that you thought he liked you. If you were so sure of that fact, you probably wouldn't have noticed anything along the lines of him not liking you. My advice is: just don't worry about him. There's other boys out there. If you guys were meant to be it would happen. And one more thing: as much as you might want him looking at you to mean something, it's probably nothing but him just glancing over at you. Far Away
Long distant relationships never work no matter how much you want it to happen. You may think you love him, but it's just lust if you live so far apart from eachother. If you met him on the internet, remember that no matter how real he seems he could be someone bad. You don't know him in real life, there for you don't know what he says is really the truth. Instead of getting upset over him, go out and meet more boys that actually live near you. Strike up a conversation with a guy in one of your classes, or smile to someone in the hall. Go out to movies with big groups of friends, and dare eachother to go talk to a boy you've never seen before. It may hurt at first, not being with him, but through time you will find someone and think "oh, how silly I was- this is love". Senior & Freshman
This is tough for me to figure out... because the exact thing is taking place in my life at this moment. And I know what you (and I) want to hear... but it's time to face facts. Stop it now before someone gets seriously hurt. Sure, go to prom with him, have a good time, but make sure he knows that it won't work out so it's not going to lead anywhere. Let him know that he's a great friend, and you still want to be around him and stuff. And remember- you're only a freshman, and you'll meet boys that will be just as great. Kissable
Your boyfriend wanting to kiss you so much could mean one of the two things- he can't get enough of you and loves you, or the second being that he is a horndog. Don't be afraid to say no! It may cause a fight, but then he will know what's wrong. It seems like he may have trust issues (thinking you are cheating on him) and there's not much to do about that. Maybe he had cheated on you, and is guilty? But don't rush to conclusions. To me, it seems like he just likes you A LOT. You just have to build up confidence to say "look, I really like you, but people who really like eachother don't need to kiss seven hundred times a day". If he really likes you he will take your feelings into concideration and hopefully stop. And keep reminding him that you would never cheat on anyone, and soon it will sink in. Take a "Chance"
There will come a day when you stop caring about what your parents think- but for now, ask yourself why your parents dislike chance so much. Does he do drugs or party? Always keep in mind that parents are just trying to protect you when they don't want you to do something. Mitch sounds like a major jerk- don't even bother with him any more, he is so not worth it. Go out with Chance (if he's not bad) and through time your parents will either see through their oppinion on him or stop bothering you about it. Failing
I am going to start off by giving you a little bit of advice that you didn't ask for- honestly, you came off way too braggy and like you had to tell me you were this popular eighth grader that everyone wants to be around, which kudos for you, but at the same time, it's way annoying.
Okay, so this boy who is in a younger grade, you are failing and may have to stay back and you want to so you can be with this boy. That you like. I thought about this, once too- failing a grade so I could stay back with a boy. But what would happen if you two broke up? Would it really be worth staying back a year, and being away from all your old friends, graduating a year late, and getting out of school (as in college) later. The answer is simple - get your grades up and don't fail eighth grade over a boy. If he likes you, great, you guys can go out, hang out after school and you can see eachother just as much as you would if you were in the same grade. And if you give me a little more info on how he acts around you, I can figure out whether he likes you or not, because you didn't really give enough. Kiss & Ignore
I think it's time someone brought it to your attention that this boy is a major player and you shouldn't even want anything to do with him. If he kissed you and then hurt you? Sorry, but the kiss probably didn't mean anything to him. He says he loves you, even though he has a girlfriend, and he flirts a lot, that's the true sign that he is no good. If he ignores you now, ignore him back. If he comes back to him DON'T TAKE HIM BACK, you will just get hurt again. It may make you upset that you like him, and he doesn't want anything to do with you, but you need to be reminded that there are other boys out there, a lot better ones at that. Action speak louder than words - "listen" to his actions, and you will agree with me 100%. So get yourself out there and meet other boys! And if you really can't get this guy out of your mind, keep telling yourself he's a jerk, and you don't need him, and soon you will believe yourself and get over him. Hang out with friends, go places, and you will meet someone who will show you how someone who loves you really acts.
The Two Jokesters
Oh my god, oh my god, oh my god! You gave me such a great flashback! This reminds me exactly of something that happened to me, and "Jim" sounds exactly like my, um.. "Cody". Go with your gut feeling. Ask yourself, "does he like me?" and without really thinking, answer yourself and don't change your mind once you get the answer. Okay, now that you've done this, compare your answer with mine: I'm thinking he does like you back. It sounds like the fact that he took the time to make you that poster, means something. And the fact that he "joked" about changing classes to be with you, too. People don't always want to tell someone that they like them by actually coming out and saying it, and most will say things like "I should switch my classes this semester so I can pester you," is really code for "I should switch classes this semester so I can be with you." Next time you see him, don't be afraid to go up and say hi. Chances are that if he didn't want to come right out and say he liked you, joking instead, that he maybe he figures you don't like him? Go ahead and find his locker- and when you do, leave a note for him in it, something simple like "I like you". You only live once and you might only have one chance to show him that you in fact do like him. And you never know what could come out of it :)
First Love
First of all, first loves are always the hardest to get over. It sounds like over a year is far to long to still wish to be with him and to be upset that he is with another girl. Everyone has had or will have a first love, and someone always ends up with a broken heart- it's a fact of life. Basicly, it's time to take the first steps into getting over him. You should stop talking to him, because the more you talk to him and are around him, the longer and longer it will take. You had said you only want him to be happy, and he will be happy if you stop dwelling on the past. Your friend who's dating him? Maybe you should stop seeing her, too. You can still talk with her, but if she's going out with him, that may end up making it hard, too. Also remember you have other friends. They are important, and so aren't your family. If you talk to them more and make your world bigger, then that boy will become less important. Talk to family and ask about their first love - they will admit that it was amazing, but that they've found better love after that. To get your mind off him, you should take up something you've wanted to do for a while - maybe learning an instrument or a new language, joining a sports team or working out, even joining clubs after school. Start telling yourself you don't love him anymore, and after a while, you'll believe yourself, and once you get your mind off of him more and more, it will start to all go away. Just remember that getting over a first love isn't easy and takes time, and if you find that it's just not going away or keeps getting worse, that it may be time to seek more help.
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| Does he like me?
1. He looks at you (from across the room, or whatever), but turns away quickly if you look at him.
2. He teases you and/or you two have litle teasing fights.
3. Pushes you or hits you playfully.
4. If he compliments you on something (like you having nice hair, etc.), he may be interested.
5. If he calls you for help on homework or something, he could be flirting or he may just really need help with homework.
6. Look to see if he acts different around you than other people. That usually means that he likes you.
7. Ask if he would go out on a date with you, and if he says yes, he probably likes you too, so you should just say you would like to go out with him too.
8. He shows off expensive/nice things (to impress you).
9. He takes your things (example: he uses your pencils, wants to tryon your glasses, etc)
10. If you catch him staring out you, smile and see if he smiles back!
11. This may or may not work out in your benefit
12. These tips are vague and could go either way, so watch out.
13. Best way is to just go with your gut feeling. How To Talk To Boys
1. Find some common interest so that you can relate to them. Sports are a great way to interact and build friendships. Just start of with things like, "Hey, nice shot!" and drop little comments to them.
2. Attempt to say something funny if you can. Otherwise, just be yourself.
3. Just act normally.
4. If they tease you, laugh along with them, or play it up with sarcasm. Guys like it when a girl has a sense of humor.
5. It is always best to avoid sharing embarrassing or disgusting stories about yourself at first. So keep the conversation light and positive. Only when you are really comfortable with them should you reveal more of yourself.
6. If you become close enough to share an inside joke, repeat it a few times, just to make sure they know you remember it...and that you find your conversations important.
7. Relax! Guys are people too, and he probably likes you just as much as you like him. Its super-important to be yourself, because the right kind of guys love/like (whatever) you for who you are, both inside and outside.
8. Do this at a gradual pace if you're known for being painfully quiet and shy. You'll just be overwhelming if you do everything at once.
9. Make sure when you are around the guys, show your great personality and don't seem shy, guys have interest in girls that seem fun and crazy.
10. Go ahead and ask them questions about school or how they are doing, and so on.
Become More Confident
1. Make yourself happier at home. Talk with friends and do fun stuff for a while until you can't keep that happiness bottled and need to let it out.
2. Start at school by making sure your head does not lower and your hair does not go in front of your face like a cover.
3. Make eye contact. If you cannot do that, look at their shoulder or something near their eyes.
4. Don't hide! it'll make you seem like you don't want to talk.
5. Smile or laugh at jokes, this makes you more noticeable.
6. Smile a lot. Its better when someone looks around and sees this bright happy person with a beautiful smile than just not noticing you in the background.
7. If you for sure know the answer to the question then raise your hand. If its wrong then just shrug it off (this also attracts some attention towards yourself without overdoing it).
8. Make sure you are talking with your friends because (maybe) that is where you feel most comfortable.
9. If you feel so shy that you can't talk much to your friends then just add in a comment once in a while.
10. Don't be phony. Keep the friends you have as your friends. You don't want to push them away and then not be accepted by others.
11. Don't stress about being cool. Teen society is generally not really worth it.
12. If you aren't great at smiling then practice at home. Not in front of the mirror, but just smile to yourself at times and later see it (after a while).
13. There is nothing wrong with being more social and happy towards family.
14. Don't overdo it at first because then you are caught with people who think you are not as shy as you are and that might make you sad to retreat again. Gain Parental Trust
1. Avoid rolling your eyes at your parents when something doesn't go your way or if something doesn't seem fair. It can be a turnoff.
2. Be sure you have all the details about the party you're going to. This way you can tell your parents what is going to happen.
3. Tell your parents if you're going to be driven somewhere. Before you do, make sure that person has good intentions and is 18 before you ask for permission.
4. Keep your cool if your parents don't let you do something. It gives the wrong impression and makes you look like a 2 year old. Your parents just think it isn't a good idea because they think it isn't safe. There could be a 99% chance that they might be right.
5. Do all of your chores and homework.
6. Say something only if you mean it.
7. Relax and calmly tell your side of the story, if you parents accuse you of doing something you didn't do. Our parents are old, so sometimes they can't think straight, but they are wise enough to understand what you are saying.
8. Make sure to do little things for your parents, like fill their drink or make breakfast even if it is just cereal, without being asked. Your parents will fall in love with you even more and will do things you want to do for a chance.
9. If you made a mistake, big or small, admit that you were wrong and don't make any excuses or blame something or someone, because if you do, your apologies will seem fake and not meaningful.
10. Don't get angry if your parents give you advice, even when you know what to do already. Just say thanks and that you'll think about it. This will help your parents know that you are listening and are accepting advice.
11. Do not take advantage of your parents in any way. It is really wrong.
12. ALWAYS follow rules like curfew. Even if the party "is just getting started" when you're supposed to go home. Think about it: is one measley party going to be worth the trouble and distrust you're going to get?
13. Don't lie.
14. If you take offense right away, tell your parents you need time to yourself, they'll understand.
15. If your parents talk to you about the same thing over and over, just do what they say for a change. It takes a lot of stress away from you and them.
16. If you think your parents won't understand, don't give up. Just keep on going and soon things will turn out positive.
17. Do not talk back to your parent, wrong choice.
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